I am 65 years old and have been many persons in my life – first a mother then a wife and again a mother twice over.
My husband was neither paternal nor faithful and after 7 years I gave him a choice: his family or his freedom.
He chose his freedom – and the house. I left taking my oldest son. After one week he signed the house over to me.
I was now a single parent with 3 children and many roles. The provider, mother, father, carer, housekeeper, mentor etc.
I had no source of income and chose to go back to full time work. It was there I discovered I was attracted to a woman.
We were together for 7 years but, as a result of one of my children's reaction to my sexuality (he was constantly in trouble with the authorities), I tried returning to a heterosexual lifestyle.
After a short time I gave up the pretence. I told my son it wasn't me and he needed to deal with his mother's true person. I returned to my female partner for another 8 years.
Like my husband she was not a faithful partner. Her idea of unconditional love was that she should have the freedom to cheat on me as often as she required. I was putting conditions on our love by requiring her to be faithful. I again moved on and was a single parent, now with a grown up family.
After some short term, unfortunate relationships, I have now been with my current partner for 15 years. The family (although maybe reluctantly) seem to have accepted us.